Want to Make and Keep Friends?
Here are a few simple secrets.
Many people are lonely and wish they had more friends. Here are a few secrets to attracting and keeping them.
Be like a dog. My dogs greet me at my bedroom door every morning. They wag their tales and jump up and down. They are excited to see me. Similarly, when I return home after being gone, they are waiting at the door. When I sit in a chair they come over to lie next to me. They want to be with me. Be excited to see your friends. Want to be with them.
Be happy. You don’t have to be happy all the time but be aware that people who are down bring others down. People don’t want to be down. Be happy. Bring others up. Make people feel better. Again, think of a dog. You don’t have a tail so smile and show you are happy.
Dress up. You don’t need expensive clothes. Dress in a way that makes you look attractive. If you don’t know how, ask others for advice. Look in a mirror and feel confident. It will change your energy.
Ask questions. Be interested in what others are interested in. Where do you live? What do you do? Where did you grow up? What do you do for fun?
Be open minded. So many people are sure that they have all the answers. This goes along with asking questions. Be open to others’ answers. A wonderful question I ask myself, “What if I’m wrong?”
Reading these Spiz posts will make you a more well-rounded person. You could pick a thought from a post and ask, “What do you think about this idea?”
Be independent. Don’t wear out your new friend. Don’t be clingy. At the same time, if there is a real attraction, you may find yourselves sitting and talking for hours. Don’t overthink it. Just enjoy it.
Get out of the house. Join a club. I joined a Lions club. I joined Toastmasters. I became involved with the Republican Party. I didn’t just attend. I participated. It wasn’t long before I couldn’t go anywhere without seeing someone I knew.
Stay in touch. I have a friend from college who called me after we hadn’t seen each other for 40 years. Now we talk nearly every week. It all started because he reached out to me.
Those are a few ideas. The main thing is to get out. Let your light shine and see who comes to you.